So over a year ago I put the blog on hiatus. I had planned on taking about a year off. That time has passed and I haven’t gotten back to this.

There are a lot of reasons for this.

Most importantly I don’t have a child gamer. When I started this blog it was my intention to chronicle the path of raising a child in the gaming hobby. I knew pretty early on Yog wasn’t a gamer. Not a board gamer anyway. That’s fine. I’m still a gamer, so I figured I could write about being a parent and a gamer. And that worked for a while. Two years ago Yog discovered larp and wanted to jump in with me. I was fortunate enough to have access to a game that not only had content that I didn’t mind her interacting with, but had game runners and a player base I was comfortable setting her loose in. But…we can only make that game twice each year. Two times a year doesn’t generate enough content for a monthly blog. Which is reason two, content has not been coming to me as it did when I first embarked on this.

Reason three, I went back to school! I’m working on a degree in ASL/English interpretation. This takes a lot of what used to be my free time. As a result I don’t board game as much as I used to. I have still managed to make it to a larp in some capacity almost every month, but my costuming a props are even more so pulled from what I own, most of the time the night before the game. So…I’m not gaming like I used to so there’s less to write about.

Reason four, I’ve had a monthly acting gig. This is awesome. I love acting and to be able to perform professionally, even if it is only once a month fills my heart with joy. But, rehearsals and performances do take time and well…

Reason five, I lack time. I was already burning the candle at both ends when I started writing this blog and now I’ve broken it in half and started burning it from the middle.

I have to put some things aside to focus on the things I’m currently doing. That is not to say that one day I may not return to this. Maybe Yog will larp more often. Or…gasp…start playing board games. One day my degree will be finished and the time I was spending on homework will be open. Maybe I’ll be able to run larps in ASL. Maybe lots of things. The future isn’t written, but I’m working on crafting it by my actions now.

But…if you are still interested in following along in what I am up to I am in the process of putting together a webpage that will detail what show I am currently in, what larp I am heading to next, and the current podcast I am in. I’m also (slowly) working on building the archives of previous podcasts, stage shows, and larps. Check it out if you are so inclined.

And in either case –

Happy Gaming!

Temporary Hiatus

Welcome to Cthulhu Mom Games – a blog about my experiences raising a child in a gamer family.

I know I promised you a DEXCON wrap up article this month. And I still really want to write it. I have actually started it and it’s looking like it will be two or three separate posts to cover everything.

However there are a great many things happening in my life right now and time is not something I have in abundance. I need to choose what gets my attention right now and unfortunately at the moment this blog needs to go to the bottom of the list. I am hoping to be able to resume posting by the end of September.

Thank you for your patience and understanding and I’ll be back in full force when I have the time and energy to dedicate to this endeavor.

Crazy Schedule Skipping

Welcome to Cthulhu Mom Games – a blog about my experiences raising a child in a gamer family.

This is a placeholder post. I made a promise to myself to post once a month, and hence have made the same promise to those of you who follow this blog.

I usually take a bit of time to write and edit my posts. This month free time is not something have had in abundance and next month is not looking much better. However, once I find time to sit down and really think and write things out I have a lot to talk to you guys about. Which is why I’m so busy right now.

There has been a lot going on in my personal life that I won’t get into.

But I recently signed on with Phoenix Outlaw Productions as a narrator. DEXCON is fast approaching and we have some really cool games to prepare for. I’ll be working on Arksong and Incandescent War. This is in addition to running my seminar on building a character toolbox, a playtest for a new RPG for kids called Secret Door, and the larp Yog and I created for kids.

I was able to get most of my prep work done early, but some things just can’t be done in advance. So I’m finding myself with very little time to reflect at the moment. But once I have that time back I’ll share it with you guys.

Until then – Happy Gaming!


Welcome to Cthulhu Mom Games – a blog about my experiences raising a child in a gamer family.

Like many gamers (or really, modern human) I spend some time on various forums and social media platforms. One of the things I like to read about is raising kids. Go figure. I’m trying to figure out what I’m doing and am hoping to glean some tips and tricks from others who have been there before me. I also read a bit about gaming. Again, I’m sure you’re shocked and surprised. And at times read about kids AND gaming. And am a little bit jealous when I hear about kids who game, since I don’t have one of those. Sometimes I even chime in with my opinion, as I obviously have little experience.


There is one conversation thread that I can’t stand and it seems to dominate the field when it comes to games and kids. It shows up in other forums, but not as often as it does with kids. I know why, but still. I don’t like the question for this group any more than I do for any other group.

The “Recommendation Thread” – What game should I play with X age that has Y theme and Z mechanic? Or even worse, only give part of that information. “What game should I play with a three year old?”

I was on a forum recently, saw another slew of posts in this vein and rolled my eyes.

Then I though “why do I dislike these posts so much?”. Because I totally understand that in this case I am the problem.

So now you get to read my thoughts.

First and foremost, I don’t know your kid, niece, friend, godson, whoever that kid in your life is. I don’t know what they like and don’t like beyond the two sentences you gave in the request. There is no way I’m going to know what kind of game they will like. I feel the same way about adults. If I get into a conversation and find out that you really like a certain game and I know another game that is in the same vein, I may suggest it to you, but that’s a rare event. There are a ton of reviews out there for pretty much any game ever made. Ok. Maybe not every game. But then go on the site and say “Hey I found this new game and can’t find any reviews. Does anyone know anything about it?”


Maybe that’s another reason those threads bother me. They seem lazy. Instead of putting your time into researching a game, you’re asking a bunch of strangers to tell you what to buy. Also, there are a ton of them. Take some time to scroll down and look at the list created for the last ten people who asked the same exact question you’re about to ask. Most forums are swimming in lists of games.

Which leads me to my next frustration. Whatever the most recent release, or most popular manufacturer is currently hot will dominate the list. If you go to where ever you like to buy games, I bet the top ten games on any recommendation list will be featured at that shop. There are more lists of games than games themselves (or so it seems) and so the same games get recommended over and over.


And goddess forbid you recommend a non-popular game or mention that you allow your child to play Candy Land. Trolls show up everywhere, even in discussions that are supposed to be about kids. Especially about discussions about raising kids. Whatever you are doing, it’s wrong. At least according to the internet.

For the love of creation, please stop asking “What kind of game will a girl like?”. You know what kind of games girls like? The same kind boys and non-binary people like. Because gender doesn’t create your preferences in life. Period.

There’s also the question of age. Anyone who has spent any amount of time with two or more children of like age can tell you that physical age is not the best indicator of a kid’s intellectual abilities. Sure, there are averages and expectations, but those averages and expectations have such a wide window that they are practically useless as guidelines. Back to my first point, I don’t know your kid. Saying that your kid is 5 gives me a wide window of possible intellectual levels. Maybe your five year old can read. Maybe they can’t. That could make a big difference. Is your 7 year old good at planning ahead, or do they need instant gratification? You get the point. There is a wide range of “normal” for any given age, so it’s hard to judge what a child might like based on that. In this case the readers you are trying to reach are just as useful as looking at the box and seeing that the game is rated for “Ages 3+”. And then we’re back at my second reason for not liking recommendation posts.

Then there is the fact that this is completely my problem, not the poster’s.

I wonder if I dislike suggestion threads because they dominate the field and mean nothing to me. I have a kid who won’t play any games with us. She’ll occasionally play with another kid, but rarely. We own a bunch of games that were designed for kids, in different themes, with different mechanics, some board games some card games, some manipulative or movement based. We have made our games as approachable to her as we can. It doesn’t matter, she won’t play a game. To the point when she went to a birthday party and wouldn’t play “Hot Potato” because the host said “Who wants to play games?”. So there is no point in my reading a list of really cool games that I’d like to share with her since she won’t play anyway. Is some of my dislike just the proverbial “sour grapes”? Possibly. Probably. Yeah.

Which is why I’m not saying “Stop writing those posts!”. They obviously hold value for others. And I have the ability to scroll past them, just as I change the station when a song comes on the radio that I don’t like. I’m simply taking my writing time (and your reading time if you’ve made it this far!) to state my feelings. Ah, the internet!

How do you feel about recommendation posts? Do you find them helpful?

Until next month – Happy Gaming!


Welcome to Cthulhu Mom Games – a blog about my experiences raising a child in a gamer family.

Recently I have been working on several game related projects, from a writing standpoint. That’s something I haven’t done in a long time, for various reasons. That got me to thinking a lot about why I started this blog, what I wanted to get out of it, and where I wanted it to go.

First I realized that since I’m writing about experiences with a child I don’t have much control over “where I want it to go”. If you go back through the archives you’ll see that I had started this in hopes to write more about how we involved our daughter in our hobby. What has happened is I write about how we game often, despite the fact that Yog is “not the kind of girl who plays games”.

Then I remembered that I had a ton of pictures that I had wanted to share, but for whatever reason, didn’t.

So I’m going to share some of my favorite pictures of Yog before she decided to be the rebel of our family. Let’s travel down memory lane, shall we?

Unless you count the convention where I was pregnant, Yog’s first convention was DREAMATION 2012. That year it was just the three of us, because my husband and I hadn’t figured out that 1) we had gamer friends who would love to attend the convention and 2) we had AWESOME gamer friends who would help us take care of Yog so we could each get to a few more events. But that first time Yog refused to sleep in her pack and play. We found out part way through the convention that part of that was that she was teething. This was a trend she would continue until she was done cutting her baby teeth – cutting them at a convention. Because why not? Mom and Dad won’t be sleeping anyway. Here are two of my favorite pictures from that weekend:


Before Yog was born we had started playing The Dresden Files RPG. We were lucky enough to continue the story to its conclusion. When she was an infant, Yog wanted to be held ALL. THE. TIME. We took turns and it typically wasn’t a problem. But it did make for some awkward moments. Like when my husband, who was our GM, had the NPCs doing some particularly nasty things while he was holding on to the adorableness that was our daughter:


My husband the GM
He looks so innocent, doesn’t he?


One of my regular gaming group’s favorite games is Arkham Horror. We have been playing it for well over a decade. We have expansions and have even added a campaign element to our game play. This was one of the reasons why we chose to call our unborn child Yog. That and we like to tempt fate. At our baby shower one of our gamer friends  made a custom Arkham Horror Great Old One card  just for Yog:

My Arkham Horror Monster
Yog’s very own Arkham Horror Great Old One Card. In case raising a child isn’t hard enough.


And just in case Yog wanted in on the games early, we made sure she had her very own D6.

Yog and her first die
We were so excited to have a baby toy with a die theme.


Since there is so much cute to process in this post I’m going to keep it shorter. Also, I’m sure you’re going cross eyed from my disjointed sentences. I hope you enjoyed the baby pictures! If not…well..next month I’ll be back with a longer post and fair warning – it’s a bit of a rant. So don’t forget there is now a stash of adorable baby pictures to cleanse your pallet should you need.

Until next month – Happy Gaming!

Video Games?

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I find that my family, and my gaming group too, are anomalies in the wider gaming world. We do not, generally, play video games. They’re just not what we’re interested in doing. A few of our friends do play video games of various sorts, but they rarely talk to us about them because they know we don’t have a frame of reference. My husband has a handful of games he plays on his computer (mostly emulators of older games), I have a few light games I play on my tablet (the usual suspects, except I’m about ten years behind the world). We own a Wii. Not a Wii U, or whatever the most recent Nintendo console is, but the ten (or maybe more) year old technology. And we’re happy with that. Where it gets weird is in every day conversations. I have found that outside the gamer world video games have earned a wider reaching social acceptability than other game forms. The typical conversation will go this way:

Other Person: What do you do for fun?

Me: We play a lot of games.

Other Person (very excited): Oh yeah? What system do you own?

Me: We play a house rule version of the FATE system when we RPG and a large variety of board games

Other Person (disappointed and half-hearted): Oh.     What’s an RPG?

Sometimes once I explain to them what an RPG is they’re interested, at least enough for it to be a conversation point. Other times I get a negative response, as though there is something wrong with me for not having an updated gaming console. Worse are those who seem to think I’m somehow depriving Yog of an essential life experience by not sitting her in front of a video game.

I’m not against video games. I’m not even against age appropriate games for kids. All in moderation of course.

I’m too much of a social creature for video games to satisfy me. Even if I’m sitting next to another player I still feel isolated staring at the screen instead of being able to look at my partner. My other reason for not getting into video games could be debunked by someone who knows more than me – it seems like the style that I’m most attracted to, the kind that is a video game RPG, will take hours, actually days, to complete. I have such a busy schedule that it would literally take me years to finish one game. In that amount of time a new console will have come out. It feels very much like my Netflix queue where I’m still catching up on shows from the early 90’s while new content I want to see is piling up. I would rather spend my time in a room with multiple people moving a story forward in a fairly quick manner. That’s my personal preference though.

There’s also the expense. I feel like for the price of the console and a single game I could purchase two or three board games that I share with my friends. That has more value for me. Again, not knocking anyone else’s choices, it’s your money and you need to spend it in a way that makes you happy. If playing video games is that happiness, awesome. It’s just not my happiness.

So I stick with my board games, RPGs and LARPS. Now here’s the rub – due to my busy schedule and the conflicts of my gaming group’s individual schedules it takes us years to get through a ten session RPG. And yes, I get that I just said two paragraphs ago that it would take me too long to get through one video game. Which is part of the reason I needed to branch out from my core group. It’s easier for me to block out an entire weekend than it is to find an hour or two each week. And while I could do that for a video game, I just don’t have the interest in doing so. I love our games. I love my groups. I love collaborative story telling. It’s probably what drew me to the world of improv.

So back to the video games. This is an area in which I am knowledge deficient. And I’m all right with that. I’m also knowledge deficient in miniature and collectible card games. The thing that amazes me is that no one looks at me funny when I say I don’t know anything about those games. Ok. Not “no one”. Non-gamers who have no idea what I’m talking about might look at me funny. But those same people look at me funny for not owning a gaming console. It seems to be all right for me to say “I suck at building decks, so I avoid deck building games”, but odd for me to say “I suck at using controllers in general so I avoid video games”.

So maybe non-gamers just like making faces at me. I’m used to it at this point in my life.

Maybe my lack of knowledge is keeping me out of the hobby too. If I knew more about the options out there in console design and game options, maybe I’d be more into it. But sometimes ignorance is bliss. I truly have so many hobbies that I’ve forgotten more past times than I engage in.

I guess my frustration is in the public perception. I feel that 1) outside of the gaming community when I say I’m a “gamer” it is assumed I play video games and I consider myself much more well-rounded than that and 2) video gamers think I’m depriving my kid of some sort of life necessity. I’m not against Yog playing video games. We just don’t have many in the house, nor do I think they are “necessary”. We have other forms of entertainment we engage in. I think I just want the general public to be more aware that there is more to the gaming world than video games and not all board games are Candy Land and Monopoly (not that there’s anything wrong with liking those games if you do).

We don’t consider ourselves or Yog to be deprived. We are the people who hold up one end of the curve that skews the average. And we’re ok with that.

Until next month, Happy Gaming! Video or otherwise.


DREAMATION 2018 Post Con

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As promised last month I’m talking DREAMATION this month. Or ummm…a few days into March. Double post month! The convention ran the last full weekend of February, so I probably should have planned this post for March. But I wanted to share the fullness of my excitement with you as soon as possible. And now that I’m writing this I realize that if I share all of my excitement your heads might explode and you will probably cry. Because I had an AMAZING weekend. And I know after the last DEXCON I said “this was the best convention yet” and that DREAMATION had a tough act to follow. However DREAMATION saw the end of a six-year long larp chronicle I had been playing and it. WAS. AMAZING. I am still going through my thoughts on that so I can share them with my fellow players. And then there was the other larp I played. And the other one I helped run. Oh –

In the meantime, let’s talk kids at conventions.

Two board game sessions. Hanging out with friends in the hallways. Two table top role playing sessions. A visit to another larp. Planning begins.

That’s the short version of my family convention experience.

I once again hosted two sessions of The Family Game Table. It was only attended by one

Yog volunteered again to be the one to drag the suit case to and from our board game session.

teenager on Saturday. I am really at a loss as to how to make this event succeed. I have considered dropping it, especially in light of how busy I was at this past convention. I booked myself solid, running or helping friends run something in every single block I had available and I’m not sure if this trend will continue. So maybe letting an under-attended event go away will be for the best, for me and for the packed convention schedule. That’s not to say that I won’t still be running events for kids. Not by a long shot. But maybe an open board game session just isn’t what people are interested in attending. Though when I speak to people and tell them about the event their reaction is usually “that’s so cool!” and “I wish I had known about that!”. I have friends who have offered to make flyers to advertise the event at the next convention since I’m not so good at self-promotion. I have a few months to ponder if I want to accept their help and keep trying to move in this direction.

My table top role playing game was Sidekick Quests “Picking Flowers in and Enchanted Grove”. The Friday afternoon session didn’t run due to lack of players. However since the game is geared towards kids I wasn’t overly surprised by this. Yog wasn’t with me because she was in school. I assumed most of her peers were in the same location Friday afternoon. Saturday afternoon’s session did run. The young lady who joined me for board gaming that morning came to play along with a friend of hers. As we were getting started we were joined by another young lady. Though they didn’t really “role play” in the sense that they all had characters, they did seem to have a good time. So much so that the young lady who joined us last is looking forward to the games I will be hosting at DEXCON. More on that later. As a newish GM I still have some learning to do and need to get more practice under my belt. There were some things about the puzzle portion of the game that I ran incorrectly, but was able to use my improv experience to work around. The girls didn’t seem to notice. Yog sat at the table with me as my co-GM. She interjected from time to time with some exposition, but mostly was my flower handler. The quest has the characters picking flowers in a certain order. I printed out tokens of the flowers so they could see the flowers they were surrounded by in their block and have a physical reminder of what they had accomplished. Yog was in charge of handing me the flowers I needed as I read them off the map so I could arrange them around the character’s avatar. It was a positive enough experience that I think I may run another table top game for children. This is one of my ideas for replacing my board game slot.

During some of the free time we managed to find with events ending early, Yog decided that she wanted to visit one of the larps. As I know the people running the game and a large portion of the players I decided to let her peak her head in, with directions to whisper and to stay out of the way of play. The game we visited is Bright Story and the characters are everything and everyone you can imagine and then some. So the costuming is a lot of fun, even if you don’t know what’s going on. As I had been able to play at DEXCON I had an idea of how the various rooms were being used, so I gave Yog a brief tour, during which she decided she wanted to play. I spoke with one of the game owners briefly and will need to have a follow-up conversation, but so far it looks like she may be welcome at the game. However, before I’m willing to let her play she and I are going to be working on the improv concept of “Yes, and…” because she still tries to control the narrative in all of her pretend play. Much like my board game session decision, I have a few months to work on this one.



A new Steam larp went into planning phase as I walked around with Yog. She’s got some really great ideas that I can run with. I will say this much, she has asked for no “bad guys” in this run, so it will be all puzzles for the players to solve. This is definitely a sequel to the first game though.

This was a different convention spending time with Yog in general. She’s more open to being in the convention area instead of playing in the room all day. I can trust her to obey rules and walk further away from her in the Dealer’s Room (while still having one eye on her). She spent about fifteen minutes chatting with one of the artists in Artist’s Alley (before I decided it was time for her to move on). I was able to stand a few feet away and talk with a friend while they chatted about art. Last year Yog wouldn’t have left my side and demanded my full attention. It was really nice. And as any parent can confirm, it’s amazing watching the changes happen in your child as they grow.

This was another convention knocked out of the park by DOUBLE EXPOSURE, the staff, and their intrepid group of volunteers who run the games. And, no I don’t mean that to be a pat on my own back, I got to work with those amazing people and benefit from the work of others, so they all deserve recognition.

If you have some recent convention love, DREAMATION or otherwise, share it in the comments. We could all use a little more hype in our lives.

Until next month – Happy Gaming!